We all have inspiring thoughts from time to time. Every once in a while, our brains will flash a mental snapshot of who we can/should be, or we'll resolve to live more meaningful lives. I obviously don't live in other people's heads, but I believe that these occasional glimpses of moral clarity are part and parcel of the human experience.
Now we need to ask ourselves: What happens with these positive impulses? Are they figurative 'flashes in the pan'? Or do they yield substantive results, transforming one's conduct and attitude? Assuming that we want to translate these thoughts into concrete change, the next question is: How?One important technique is to avoid quick, broad changes. If I'm driving down the highway, and suddenly recognize that I should be spending more quality time with my child, I shouldn't just make a sweeping resolution to become a different person. That's a bit too open-ended, and thus unrealistic.
Over-the-top isn't an effective strategy.
Here's a better way: When that figurative 'light bulb' goes off in my head, I can resolve to act differently today, or maybe even this entire week. I should concentrate on a limited, manageable chunk of time into which I can sink my teeth. It's a realistic goal; and I can renew my pledge as the time expires.
So, incremental growth is healthy growth. That's a message of the Chanukah candles: First, we bring the light of one candle to the world. Then, a second. And so on.
But what now? Today is the eighth day of Chanukah. Tomorrow there are no more Chanukah candles. The Menorahs and dreidels are packed away.
But it can't end here. This is just the launch.
Now we need to take Chanukah's inspiration and elevate our lives throughout the year.
Our conceptual Chanukah lights need to keep burning, even after the Menorah is packed away. Hmmm. Lights burning beyond their normal capacity. I guess that'll be our own personal 'Miracle of the Oil'.
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The Launch
Wednesday, 12 December, 2007 - 5:32 pm
Posted by Rabbi Mendy Herson
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I'm MENDY HERSON, Executive Director of Chabad of Greater Somerset County. I was born and raised in NJ, and I’m the Rabbi at Chabad. Many people call me Mendy, which is just fine with me; I don't want the title to create too much distance between me and my friends (Some people wonder: Can you joke around with a Rabbi? Can you text him?). Spirituality and and Jewish thought are my lifeblood. And I'm thrilled to explore them with anyone, especially with people who disagree with me. When I can explore meaningful ideas with my local friends, to help us all better our lives, I feel like I've struck gold.
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I very much relate to what you're both saying, which is what makes this a special journey for me. I don't look like the people I work with; in fact, the uninformed observer would guess that we have nothing in common. But the uninformed observer would obviously be wrong.
Just to explain the '8:16' reference for those who weren't at the Shabbat Family Forum:
We were discussing how mindfulness of a meaningful objective lends meaning to the entire path toward that objective. For example, if a student recognizes upon awakening how the forthcoming school day is meant to maximize his development and future life, that should lift the school day from drudgery to a level of relevance and meaning.
As part of the discussion, I asked Zach, a 12 year old, what time he wakes up. He answered: "8:16".
My point that his thoughts at 8:16, bearing in mind his objective, can set a meaningful tone for the day.
If I'm ommitting something, or if someone can lend further meaning to the 8:16 reference (someone just mentioned it me on the phone), please feel free!
Mendy